This is a long one.
This first one is over the internet interaction:
Now for the …tsk (I usually make this sound when I think “Dumba*s” <– remember this…
I am on a langauge exchange chat that a friend suggested. She uses it too. Well, since I had only one class today I was on and chatting with other people.
Some guy who is 25 asked to chat with me. I figure he is like the other people, just chatting to improve their skills in English.
We greet each other and then he immediately asks for a picture. I told him since I am at work I can’t give one. He keeps asking for picture, so I put it in simpler terms: NO PICTURE. AT WORK.
He says ok.
Then there was nothing for a bit and I keep chatting with the other nice people.
To get a conversation going, I say what town I live in (It is huge don’t worry about him trying to find me. He has no idea what I look like.)
He replies he lives in Seoul. I say I go there every month and will be there this weekend.
He asks if I want to meet.
I don’t mind.
(I meet my Koreans friends there all the time and am meeting a friend there also at the Mall. Plus, LBFOM — little brothers from other mothers — are not far away either. I call every time I go to Seoul and they find me. I am always in public.)
I say I am staying there for a couple of days.
He says something about him wanting everything. I don’t understand what he means.
I say, I leave Sunday. He wants to meet Sunday at 1pm. I will be home at that time because I check out at 11. He thinks about it.
He asks if I am pretty.
I think that is a strange question — I am weary of him — and answer that the teachers and students think so. (I have had strangers come up and say that to me. Men and Women.) [DN's Note: Happened again when I went to go get my hair done, flat twists against head, and had to ask LBFAM #1 J what the older woman said. More on LBFAM #1 Later in the post.]
He says good.
He doesn’t say anything for a while. Then he asks…
Do you like sex?
I close the chat room.
Then go back to chatting with other people.
Now for the "...He what?" part of the title.
This is about LBFAM #1 J.
J is a cute, nice, sweetie of a guy.
More on that in a minute. This is what happened.
I was meeting a friend in Seoul and I told John I was in Seoul. He usually comes and meets me when he can make it. M couldn't come because he is busy studying for some big test. My friend and John were both late.
When J called me telling he is running late and I told him it was okay because my friend K is too.
K is a teacher here who has plenty of AM/BW interactions -- from what I hear, some are NSFW. I have asked her to come on the Narrative, but she don't wanna.
J has told me numerous times, it's hard for him to find a girlfriend because he is too short. He is my height, I may be a little taller. K is shorter than him and wanted to meet him. I told her he was cute and last time she couldn't meet him because he was busy.
Well, I picked her up and we met up with J at the Mall. He was dressed up -- nice semi long trench, jeans, dress shoes -- considering what I usually see him wearing -- regular jacket, jeans, sneakers. Even his hair was different.
He greeted K and I. Since we met up late, he asked if I had time for a movie. I told him we both had to leave in a couple of hours to get to our hair appointments on time, since they were almost 2 hours away. He understood, so we found something to eat instead.
J mostly talked to me, I figured it was because he just met her and was more comfortable talking to me. We ate and we talked. When we parted ways J said to call him when I am done and maybe we can hang out later if I am done. K told me differently later on, she saw things I didn't notice on our way back to Seoul after our appointments.
Me: Next time he meets you, he would talk to you more.
K: He likes you.
K: He likes you.
Me: ... How you figure?
K: How many times has he text you when we left? (we were on our way back to Seoul)
J text me a couple of times while we were taking the subway to catch our bus.
K: And he did the hand gesture. (She puts her hand on my shoulder.)
K got a text from her ABM friend who is a teacher to and he wants to go a club that happens to be (WAY) up the street from the hotel we stay at and she says ok.
She tells them she is bringing me and then get a call from J. He asks if I was done and what I was doing. I said I am going to the club with K in Apgujeong (area where he stays).
He said ok and told me to have fun. J did not sound happy about that at all.
It was fun though. I had to go in and out of the club because of the people smoking and it was giving me a headache. But lordy, the eye candy in there.
When I went out to the convenience store when I had enough of the smoke, I met a few of the guys I saw in the club. I didn't think they noticed me but apparently they did.
One cutie with a nice smile and his friend walked in the store. He smiled when he saw me.
Cutie #1 - Something in Korean (I slightly understood)
Me: Huh? Where?(I didn't realize he was referring to me at first. He also may have said it in Korean. It was 1AM and I wasn't all there.)
Cutie's friend: He said He saw you in the club.
Me: Oh. I didn't think anyone noticed me. (I was not dressed for a club. Wearing a Mario mushroom hoodie and my jeans and sneakers. Chilling out attire. No make-up and scarf from India on my head to keep hairstyle fresh. And the smoke smell off.)
Cutie and friend smile. They purchased their stuff and left. Cutie left with a lingering look and smile.
Damn it, I need to learn Korean faster.
Other stuff that happened that night I will post on my blog.
LBFAM #1 is not going to hear about that part.
Last time we text each other that night, was the first time I left the club saying that I wasn't a club person. He seemed happy about the in the text and when he called later on. This is before the interaction with the men.
Ok, advice on what I should do with LBFAM #1 J.
I like him, but I don't see him that way. He is 26 years old. That doesn't really bother me any more, but I am pretty sure we are not on the same level. I can go same level or higher, not lower.
He remembers what I like -- knows I love some of Sexy (brings it up often and think it is because of body, I tell him because Sexy is smart and sweet, body is a bonus) -- now, knows what music I dislike and that we are a bit of opposites. He listens to more American music and stopped listening to KPOP. I listen to KPOP and stopped listening to American music. We both did this for the same reasons, it all sounds the same after a bit. He told K that he and I are opposites -- I dislikes everything he like and they laughed about it.
Really, advice is needed.