|Tiffany Rubin & Kobe Lee|
Let me start by saying I loooooove Taraji P. Henson and Sean Baek. My beef is not with them; I'm happy to see Taraji branching out as usual, and I'm proud Sean is getting some very deserved, overdue attention. Not to mention, I'm glad Tiffany Rubin got her child back, and hopefully a nice chunk of change from Lifetime.
However...why is it that semi-mainstream to major Blasian films are either "asexual" or they portray something profoundly negative about Blasian romance?
The cold hard reality is that we don't yet have enough good Blasian media to balance out the dark, if you feel me. We haven't had several sexually charged versions of Romeo Must Die or Ninja Assassin, and we haven't had several full-length, Akira's Hip Hop Shop-type films splayed across the big screen. And until we have these, it's not very productive to zero in on this real-life family and make a widely advertised film about their fucked-up situation.
The message women get from this film is, once again, "You don't want an Asian man. See? The minute things go wrong in your relationship, he can hightail across the ocean and take your child[ren] with him."
...Kobe has "had a few issues" trying to return to normalcy after his forced trip to Korea.See what I mean?
"He doesn't talk about it too much. The further away we get, the fewer memories he has about what happened," [Rubin] says.
"He's a lot better now. There were a few instances where I'd find a knife in his backpack because he was afraid, and his teachers called me when he went on a school trip to say he did a double-take every time he saw an Asian man."
Salko was arrested in Guam in the fall of 2008 after trying to enter the country. He pled guilty to kidnapping, served time in a West Virginia* prison and was released last June. He can't have any contact with his son until Kobe turns 18. (Source)
I assure you all I'm being neither hypersensitive nor paranoid; I'm just being vigilant as always. America has this annoying tendency to negatively portray POC more often than positively (like, overwhelming more often). And now that we're seeing the *pattern* emerge more often and prominently than before, I have to raise a cynical eyebrow to a film which suddenly comes out highlighting a failed real-life relationship when successful, remarkable, real-life ones have been either downplayed or outright ignored.
For example...why hasn't the film industry asked Hateya for her life story? Raise your hand if you wouldn't mind seeing that on the big screen.
*Damn...he was incarcerated near me, y'all.