Case in Point

In communication, I follow a strict rule: pay attention not only to what's being said, but what's not being said.

In my last post I brought up some issues about the myths of black female undesirability, and how they are being maintained and perpetuated throughout Asia via American media.  What I'm trying to get across here is that we all need to think about not just that Asians are getting distorted information about black women, but the real reasons why.  It's not really about "domination" anymore; each passing year sees the power (and white populations) of the West drain until it is in no position to dominate anyone.  So now people must turn their thoughts to different reasons.

On my blog, I've pointed out three very important ones:

1) White American men not only desire black women, but do not want anyone else to have them.  As unbelievable as that may sound, when you think about it, it explains our media.  As you can see on that old post, white guys opposite black women are almost regularly getting kisses and sex scenes in film and TV; Asian and Latino men are not.  And black men are hardly paired with black women anymore.  Keep in mind that one of America's biggest exports is film, but I'm beginning to think that the West is deliberately shelving certain films and TV series, so that the East won't start "getting any ideas".*

After all, what's good for the goose is good for the gander, right?

2) "Popular media" should be redefined, because online media is now technically popular media (scroll down to the section entitled "The Ones Who Couldn't Wait").  And black women have made vast strides in online media.  Non-black men who have married black women have a voice, an international audience, and thus are no longer random, faceless statistics.  They're letting people know.  A white guy from Europe, Tobi Mann, was interviewed by Nichelle Gregory, and apparently, he started a whole damn movement of his own.  I'm amused, because his is a message I think the West would rather keep under lock and key.

His own words: "I think IR dating is different depending on where you are located. It’s not a big deal at all in Europe. Black women are very sought after here."  (Remember the complaints the white American girl made in my "Shattered Pedestal" post about European guys preferring black girls?)

How come this part of the memo to the East got withheld?  How come this little part wasn't said?  Speaking of Tobi and his BW/WM movement, by the way, their Facebook page led me to this gem:

3) Last thing: over a year ago, I wrote a post about how "preference" is the racist mot du jour. And the main problem was how, once again, people were rushing to ignore their own conditioning and not look closely at the effects of control.  Most Asian men will not get to marry a white woman, in part due to simple mathematics, but more importantly, if you keep them focused on a hopeless cause, you can neutralize them.  You can keep them under your control, even when they could clearly wipe you off the face of the earth if they simply set their minds to it.

And while you keep their eyes trained on the lofty goal of elevation via marriage to a white wife, you carefully turn their attentions away from other women.  Now this part is very important, because commenters here and on my blog have repeatedly pointed out that white people aren't very comfortable when POC start pairing off amongst themselves.  They don't like it when we're paired off with them, but they're getting intimidated by the sight of us pairing off with one another.  So while Trish/Han fascinated all people because of their novelty, Raizo/Mika made "some" people downright uncomfortable, because they and their hordes of adoring fans confirmed what we Narrators fondly call "the pattern."  They made people realize that the BW/AM wasn't just some cool, one-time thing that peeps were going to forget about.  Instead, Romeo Must Die has been dubbed a "classic" amongst POC, and it paved way for Demetri/Zoey, Kenji/Alice, John/Helen, Slayer Nikki Wood/Officer Li, Monsieur Nov and his ladies, and of course, Raizo/Mika.

Oh...and let's not forget, had Gene Roddenberry not initially intended Spock for Uhura, Uhura/Sulu would've cornered the Blasian market some damn 44 years ago.


Black female desirability is about to become a major focus on this blog because I feel we need to stand up and let people know exactly what's going on.  I'll admit we've done a lot of fangirling on here where the guys are concerned, but I feel we need to start fangirling ourselves more.  Besides, men do read this site and I'm sure they'd appreciate the eye candy.


  1. You thinking of it Black Females have been ignored in terms of Media...but you brought a thoughtful point

  2. You thinking of it Black Females have been ignored in terms of Media...but you brought a thoughtful point

    There's that, but now that we're not so ignored by the media, the West is trying to "edit" our image. Because where media is concerned, we're seeing an increase in BW/WM. If the West is trying to convince the Far East that they don't want us because we're unwantable, how can they explain this increase in BW/WM images? They can't, and so they put themselves in a position where they don't have to. Spock/Uhura, for example, "doesn't count" because Spock is an alien...similar issue in Avatar. But check out the films and TV series listed in the linked post:

    Alfie: Nia Long & Jude Law
    Die Another Day: Halle Berry & Pierce Brosman
    Heroes: Tawny Cypress & Milo Ventimiglia
    Mission Impossible 2: Tom Cruise & Thandie Newton
    Eureka: Sallie Richardson Colin Ferguson
    Lincoln Heights: Erica Hubbard & Robert Adamson
    August: Josh Hartnett & Naomie Harris
    Something New: Simon Baker & Sanaa Lathan
    Dance with Me: Chayanne & Vanessa Williams
    Nip/Tuck: Sanaa Lathan & Julian McMahon
    Avatar: Zoe Saldana & Sam Worthington (CGI be damned)
    Guess Who: Zoe Saldana & Ashton Kutcher
    Bones: Tamara Taylor & David Boreanaz (briefly)
    Monster's Ball: Halle Berry & Billy Bob Thornton
    Wonderful World: Sanaa Lathan & Matthew Broderick
    Supernova: Angela Bassett & James Spader
    Strange Days: Angela Bassett & Ralph Fiennes
    Lakeview Terrace: Patrick Wilson & Kerry Washington
    Boston Legal: Kerry Washington & James Spader (again, briefly)
    Love Song: Monica & Christian Kane
    The Bodyguard: Kevin Costner & Whitney Houston

    How does the West explain black female undesirability to the East with these? Simple: don't make these major international films/shows so that you don't have Asian men asking, "How come you get to be with BW...and we don't? Why do you insist on downplaying their worth to us, when you yourselves can't keep your hands off them?"

  3. I'm rather shocked! Romeo Must Die will air this afternoon on regular television. Why is this important in the context of our discussion? In general, there is no kissing, hugging or sex-ing on Japanese television. Though they do not portray love or coupling as such, the audience will correctly view the two as a couple based on how they PROTECT each another. For the record, dubbing and CCs are both available, meaning kids can watch as well. Interesting... Of course, an Asian man getting it all isn't extraordinary in Japan. ;)

  4. @ Hateya

    Amazing! Wow...I wonder what the reaction will be.

  5. @ Hateya

    Yeah I noticed that in the Doramas. The fact that RMD is so blatant in that regard has me giddy to see how it will affect first time viewers there.

  6. @Anhk Don't forget Zoe Zaldana and Orlando Bloom in....whatever that movies was called :D

    I think it was "Haven"

  7. Soul Man-Rae Dawn Chong and C.Thomas Howell.
    Angel Heart-Lisa Bonet and Mickey Rourke.
    Queen-Jasmine Guy and Tim Daly.( I wonder did Tim find it easier to play this role because of his Tyne's relationships/marriages to Black men?)

    We can name the people all night long and there we will still posting about these films until we're dead and gone. For White media to say that Black women are not desired, they sure have funny ways of showing it.

  8. My bad! Queen was a true story. I should have left that one out.

  9. For White media to say that Black women are not desired, they sure have funny ways of showing it.

    *nods* Yup.

    But now that I think about it, we're obviously desired, but they make it in a context of white aesthetics. Straight hair or if not straight, curly (read: "good") hair, brown skin , but not too brown, etc. That looks like it might be starting to change (hopefully), but it's been a slow process.

  10. @ cinnamon

    We're seeing more white guys go for all-natural looking dark-skinned women - at least in real life. Media has yet to catch up on that interesting little tidbit, and I wonder if it ever really will, because Hollywhite REALLY doesn't want to condone the chase of kinky-haired dark-skinned women.

    When I was going off about Zula, I was surprised to have white boys - of all people - come onto my blog in her defense. It genuinely threw me for a loop to see them openly admitting attraction to her.

  11. Great post Ankh. Interestingly enough, this ties into the hoodwinking we discussed awhile back about Asian Men and their belief that they are not attractive to women in the west. There is some serious mindf*cking going on here.

    Speaking of an amazing Black Woman, Telisha Shaw is back on tour w/JYJ when they hit N. America this spring. The hate has already begun via twitter. It seems her close ties w/the guys and her love for Junsu in particular, is a pblm for some folks.

    Telisha preps for JYJ 2011 Tour

  12. Speaking of an amazing Black Woman, Telisha Shaw is back on tour w/JYJ when they hit N. America this spring.


    Oh...haters can just right ahead and hate. Won't change a goddamn thing.

  13. Queen of the Damned- Aaliyah and Stewart Townsend

  14. That's so true Ankh. America has a wierd hatred toward interracial relationships in general. They don't like to see POCs with other POCs, both in the media and real life. Cases in point: Romeo Must Die, Whitney Houston's(RIP) Cinderella, Halle Berry's Catwoman(with Benjamin Bratt), and even Princess and the Frog. With the latter, white Americans complain about Tiana pairing with an East Indian/Middle Eastern Raveen. The media want people to think that Blacks were opposed to the PATF movie. Halle Berry's movie with Benjamin Bratt, white male movie critics brutally critique the movie and Hollywood deliberately not promoted the movie because there was a Latino love interest. They like seeing Halle paired with WM and no one else. It's perfectly alright to pair BW/WM in the media, but not BW/BM, BW/POC pairings. Like you wrote, it's all about control and dominance of the WM more than anything else.

    Stephanie B.


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