8.08.2011

'The Africa Niche'

Thanks to Indie for providing the link to this video featuring Vimbayi Kajese on living single in Beijing.


I am posting this here without comment, I am sure some readers may find this interesting.

15 comments:

  1. I'm not sure what to say, except this looked like so much fun.

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  2. However...I'll be honest. I don't dig when people put others on the spot like that about their dating preferences. Maybe some of these men are gay and don't want to come out yet. ALL of them are going to say "Yes" in order to appear non-racist.

    Another thing is, they're models from around the world. Doing a special like this implies that your average [Black] single gal can move to Beijing, obtain entrance to a ritzy spot, crash a fashion show, and go home with a model that same night.

    Um...no.

    Furthermore, if you're going to show dating life in Beijing...shouldn't the focus be more on Chinese men? I mean, why move to Beijing to hook up with a white guy? *blink*

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  3. "Furthermore, if you're going to show dating life in Beijing...shouldn't the focus be more on Chinese men? I mean, why move to Beijing to hook up with a white guy? *blink*"

    When I saw this however long back (probably 1yr+) That was my same thought.

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  4. It's like they went to where the Asian men AREN'T.

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  5. "Furthermore, if you're going to show dating life in Beijing...shouldn't the focus be more on Chinese men? I mean, why move to Beijing to hook up with a white guy? *blink*"

    I agree, if I started watching this near the end I would never have known that they were in Beijing.

    It would also have been nice to actually get some prespective from some Chinese men, instead of just the models.

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  6. This video is actually part of a series about dating in Beijing, and most of her videos are about life in Beijing and dating Chinese men. It's actually pretty interesting. She'll take to random locals on the street about dating life, it's pretty funny. The host is always trying to find a Chinese guy to date.

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  7. @ Ariel

    Good to know. I'll be looking into that.

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  8. A fashion show seemed like a strange place to go to meet men. It's hard to say if Vimbayi only wants non-Chinese more or not because we barely get information from her. She's more or less a tag along for Sufei's (sp) "wacky exploit." And I too didn't like the way the men were put on the spot. I don't think most of them well say "Fuck naw I hate black broads!" in front of Vimbayi. When I see these type of interviews I just feel indifferent because I feel like it forces them to say stuff they may or may not mean. Would have liked it more had we seen Vimbayi flirting and doing her own thing vs. the men being interviewed. But the interview thing seems to be a part of Sufei's show style (I watched another video or two). Maybe Vimbayi will get around to making her own web series so we can see more of her point of view.

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  9. @Ankh

    Maybe some of these men are gay and don't want to come out yet. ALL of them are going to say "Yes" in order to appear non-racist.

    I checked out the comments below the video on youtube and there was one hinting that one of the models was indeed gay.

    Furthermore, if you're going to show dating life in Beijing...shouldn't the focus be more on Chinese men? I mean, why move to Beijing to hook up with a white guy? *blink*

    THIS! This is exactly what I thought after watching the video. It seems no one else here has picked up on it but on youtube there were reactions to Vimbayi saying that she only dated biracial men of Asian descent because of 'cultural differences'.

    If Su Fei's other videos were focusing on dating Chinese men in Beijing, I wonder why it was different with Vimbayi. Who made the going out choices? and such. IMHO, from watching this I don't think Vimbayi is really interested in dating Chinese men but her experiences in Beijing are fascinating.

    @Ariel

    Thanks for the info, I like Su Fei's videos. The only thing is I am not sure if her other videos would fit in with our Blasian theme here.

    @ShaSha

    I've never been a fan of asking people, "Would you date ~insert race/nationality~?" because whether they are honest or not, it leaves more questions than answers.

    I'd love to see Vimbayi's own web series.

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  10. @Ankhesen,
    Furthermore, if you're going to show dating life in Beijing...shouldn't the focus be more on Chinese men? I mean, why move to Beijing to hook up with a white guy? *blink*

    It's fairly common for expatriates to hang out together because they DO have more "overt" cultural things in common, which generally begins with language. No matter how good you are in a second or twentieth language, sometimes you prefer YOURS even if it was imposed upon you by a colonizer. Second, attraction begins with some sort of communicative ability. All the Asian guys I dated in Alabama were usually from South East Asia, not preferred Asians. In essence, we became kindred because they were "dark." All the Asian guys I dated in Taiwan and China where either overseas Chinese from various countries or Japanese. Not only where they my classmates, they also tended to be treated like shit by the locals. Hence, it was certainly easier for me to sympathize, to empathize and to relate to them as opposed to a local guy. One of the Japanese guys I dated didn't speak English, only German and Chinese. Fucking him was easy. Dating him in a third language was damned hard and we eventually broke up because lust can't compensate for the lack of true communicative ability. In Taiwan, I also had access to some locals who had previously been in Alabama. Had they never gone to my territory, I seriously doubted we ever would have hooked up. There's no specific reason why, it's just the way it happens when you're an expatriate and there's a gap between you and the host nation's people. Most people overcome this gap by having an existing relationship with a local.

    More than likely, the only way Vimbayi Kajese will find a local Chinese-Chinese guy to her liking is through someone else. Furthermore, if it takes him being fully Westernized to fulfill her standards, then she might as well date a white guy.

    @I don't dig when people put others on the spot like that about their dating preferences.

    This is especially true when by "dating preferences," you mean "skin color."

    Admittedly, I'm tickled that each man, regardless of his background, made it clear that they'd take sexy and intelligent Vimbaya over plain, ordinary "whiteness" any day. Yes, I know I'm being petty. ;)

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  11. It's fairly common for expatriates to hang out together because they DO have more "overt" cultural things in common, which generally begins with language.

    I guess what I'm saying is, for those us of viewing from countries like the US, watching a black woman living in China try to hook up with white guys makes us wonder why we bother watching vids like these in the first place. Though Ariel clarified not all these vids are like this one.

    Furthermore, if it takes him being fully Westernized to fulfill her standards, then she might as well date a white guy.

    Which throws me. Why would an African born and raised woman who gushes about China go for the Westernized types?

    Admittedly, I'm tickled that each man, regardless of his background, made it clear that they'd take sexy and intelligent Vimbaya over plain, ordinary "whiteness" any day. Yes, I know I'm being petty. ;)

    *shrug* They were put on the spot, so I remain skeptical.

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  12. @Ankh

    Though Ariel clarified not all these vids are like this one.

    I still don't know if those other vids feature interviews with Black women.

    Which throws me. Why would an African born and raised woman who gushes about China go for the Westernized types?

    I can understand this because there are several Westernised Africans born and raised on the continent. I've had quite a few people would classify me as Westernised, I get people tell me often that I seem like the 'type' to marry a white guy.

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  13. @Ankhesen
    I guess what I'm saying is, for those us of viewing from countries like the US, watching a black woman living in China try to hook up with white guys makes us wonder why we bother watching vids like these in the first place.

    If the vid hadn't been posted here, I wouldn't have watched it. Yet, I'm always interested in the lives of Black-American and African women because our diversity is amazing. Now I've learned something about one individual Zimbabwean woman living and working in Beijing.

    Which throws me. Why would an African born and raised woman who gushes about China go for the Westernized types?

    Dunno. To this day, I steer clear of such people because there's something inherently "icky" about a person who chooses to value someone else's heritage above their own.

    *shrug* They were put on the spot, so I remain skeptical.

    You misunderstand. My bad. I was tickled because I had the impression the men were only choosing Vimbaya and "Sufei." My pettiness has nothing to do with the larger racial dynamics. Besides, the question was only about dating. I suspect many non-Black men, if they could actually get a crack at an African woman they find attractive, would date her. You know, dinner, dancing, and sex. It's not as if "Sufei" asked if they'd love, protect, marry, and produce children with an African woman.

    @EccentricYoruba
    I've had quite a few people would classify me as Westernised, I get people tell me often that I seem like the 'type' to marry a white guy.

    Incredibly, there are people who think they know you better than you know yourself. I'll roll my eyes on your behalf. ;)

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  14. We don't know who she's dated before or after this video. I understand what Hateya is saying. As much as I loved Japan and Japanese men, it was also frustrating when you don't know enough about their culture and they don't know enough about yours. So I took "breaks" from them from time to time and went out with non-Japanese men: white, black, and Asian-American.

    With Vimbayi, we just know that she was single at the time of the taping but we really don't know who's dated before or after. We don't know if she has those "breaks" or not. I really think that would have been a more interesting story rather than going to the fashion instead.

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  15. I've never been an expat but I can understand why they'd want to self segregate and hang out with each other. I guess I expected to see some Asian expats hanging out in the same place. It was a short video and they only seemed to go to one night spot and the fashion show so maybe not the best representation of expat life.

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