“Can you PLEASE hire some single hot men? I need someone to flirt with in faculty meetings.”
He smiled at me (my boss is WAY cool) and said, “I get that request every single year.”
I said, “Well, don’t you think you need to do something about it?”
So he whips out a stack of vita of people he’s going to interview at the upcoming job fairs and we go through them (hilariously surreal, I know). Most of them are married, but there was one singleton in the pile. Pictures are normally included with the vita, and the singleton isn’t really someone I’d go for.
As usual, we get into a side conversation (he’s a real people person and LOVES to talk) and he explains that it’s very hard for single women to get boo’ed up in Asia. In fact, several female candidates he interviewed in the past refused to take the job simply because it was in Asia. One of the women said, “I won’t be a single woman in Asia again.”
I’m like, “What?” (Wondering if this is something I should have asked during my interviews)
He explained that it’s hard for single women because single men who relocate to Asia typically want to marry Asian women, and it’s rare for them to deviate from that path. He told me a story about one of his recruiting adventures where he was trying to woo a top-shelf female educator to come work at the institute when that question came up. He then tried to convince her that it wasn’t the case until he remembered that his wife was Asian and promptly shut the hell up.
She didn’t take the job.
Apparently, it is hard for single Western women over on this side of the planet, at least for educators. International schools prefer to hire couples because it saves them a ton of money, but they do hire singletons. The funny thing about hiring couples is that most of them don’t have the same last name…and you don’t know if you’re flirting with someone who’s married until you learn otherwise. I got a good thing over here and I don’t want no problems.
Hell, all I want is some eye candy. I’m not looking for a boo thang. But it is interesting to understand the situational dynamics when it comes to dating in a place like this. As far as dating the locals, I need to learn how to speak the language first. Priorities, yo.
I’ll keep y’all posted.