So this post is extremely late. I've been meaning to discuss the topic around Valentine's Day but my schedule has been extremely hectic. Even my youtube hasn't had any new videos lately. Oh well.
BTW, this advice applies double to anyone looking to meet someone online (ambw groups, I'm looking at you lol).
Singleness. And why you should embrace it.
I actually taught a Sunday School lesson on this to some of the teens I work with (don't worry, it won't be too preachy). Its interesting to see the parallels between them and adults. Seems the struggle for intimacy with another doesn't age gracefully. Lets tackle the obvious though.
Why do we pursue relationships so heavily?
It could be a combination of culture pushing relationships and happiness as being relative. Maybe it could be to cover up an insecurity in our lives or childhoods. Maybe its just better than being alone.
The end result ends up with drama, heartbreak, lust, regret, basically the crap you could find on social networks nowadays.
So singleness is better, for the time being.
It seems that developing and focusing on one's self is not a popular or even common choice. In pursuing someone however, it is the best route. It is much easier to grow and mature in all aspects when your focus is solely on you and not divided on a significant other. It allows you to achieve your goals and develop quality standards.
I would never recommend dating someone you don't see yourself marrying simply because in all likelihood, there's not much room for a happy outcome. Plus, for any naysayers that would argue about dating to know someone, how much more can you learn about someone dating that couldn't be learned from being a friend? Honestly?
Save the heartache, grow, have higher standards, and reach goals. You attract essentially what you are. And to anyone who doesn't have many prospects, know that low prices attract many customers while only those that can afford it receive the best of the best.
So love yourself. Love yourself enough to be enough of a person without the relationship. Good things come in time, but be ready to receive the good otherwise it does you no good.